Modern dating has started to feel like a second job, endless swiping, decoding mixed signals, managing situationships and trying to stay “chill” when you’re absolutely not.

In this episode we break down why 2026 is the year of intentional dating and why clarity, consistency and momentum are replacing confusion and dopamine driven chaos.

With research showing that over half of Gen Z and Millennials are prioritising true love even above finances and career the dating landscape is shifting. Australians are increasingly dating with direction and commitment is making a comeback.

This episode dives into what intentional dating actually looks like in practice, why ambiguity is emotionally expensive and how to stop repeating the same patterns with a different person.

What You’ll Learn:

Why modern dating feels emotionally draining
The difference between attention vs. intention
Why ghosting happens (and what it really says)
How ambiguity impacts your nervous system
Why commitment is trending again in Australia
How some dating apps are redesigning for intentional behaviour
The role AI is playing in modern dating

The 4 Pillars of Intentional Dating

The practical four pillar framework to help you date with clarity and confidence:

1. Clarity

Know what you’re looking for and say it early. If you want a relationship, don’t invest in someone who “just wants to see what happens.”

2. Consistency

Look for repeated behaviour not emotional spikes. Romance isn’t disappearing for five days after a great date, that’s emotional whiplash.

3. Boundaries

Protect your nervous system. Boundaries aren’t about controlling others, they’re about leading yourself.

4. Momentum

Connection should move forward in real life. If you’ve been texting for weeks without meeting, you’re not dating, you’re pen pals.

The State of Dating in 2026

Over 50% of Gen Z and Millennials are prioritising true love this year
59% of Australians say they are dating to marry
91% of people report modern dating apps as challenging
Ambiguity and ghosting are major contributors to dating burnout

The shift? From hustle culture to love culture. Connection is becoming the new form of success.

Intentional Dating & App Design

Dr. Lurve explores how some platforms including Coffee Meets Bagel are designing features that support healthy dating behaviour, including:

Curated daily matches to reduce swipe fatigue
Anti-ghosting chat expiration features
Intentional first move prompts
Detailed, values based profiles
Transparency tools that encourage accountability

The takeaway: No app is magic but design influences behaviour.

AI & Dating

More singles are using AI to craft messages and polish profiles. Used well, AI can reduce anxiety and support clarity but it can’t replace authentic connection. If AI becomes your personality, you’re not dating your algorithm is.

Your Intentional Dating Checklist This Week:

State your intention clearly in one sentence.
Ask one value based question early on.
Move toward a real life date within 7 - 10 days.
Choose quality over quantity.
Pick environments that match your intention.

Intentional dating isn’t about being rigid. It’s about choosing clarity over confusion, connection over chasing and momentum over mind games. If you’re tired of dating potential and crying in voice notes to your friends this episode is your reset. Share this with someone who needs it.

See you on the next episode of Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

Season 4 - Episode #5: Intentional Dating In 2026