If you’ve ever celebrated a “Good morning” text like it was a grand romantic gesture, mistook crumbs for commitment or convinced yourself that your anxiety was chemistry, this conversation is going to hit home in the best possible way.

This episode is your wakeup call, your nervous system hug and your permission slip to never entertain bare minimum behavior again.

In This Episode, We Cover:

- Why Women Are Conditioned to Accept Less Than They Deserve
- Emotional, Social & Generational Training that Creates Overfunctioning
- How Childhood Attachment Shapes Attraction to Inconsistent Men
- The Nervous System: Why “Bare Minimum” Can Feel Like Love
- Potential vs. Reality: The Trap of Investing in Who He Could Be
- The 10 Signs You’re Dating a Bare Minimum Man
- The Feminine Shift: From Hyperindependence to Softness & Standards
- How to Raise Your Standards Without Feeling Guilty
- Reprogramming Overgiving & Overfunctioning
- Letting the Wrong Man Eliminate Himself
- What Happens When You Finally Meet a Man Who Shows Up

Key Takeaways:

- Women don’t accept bare minimum because they’re “stupid”, conditioning chooses for them
- Your nervous system may mistake inconsistency for love because that’s what felt familiar
- Healing makes you allergic to bare minimum behavior
- You are not asking for too much, you were asking the wrong person
- Standards aren’t demands; they’re boundaries
- You don’t need to explain your standards. You embody them
- Raising your standards may feel scary at first, that’s your nervous system rewiring
- A man aligned with you will rise; a bare minimum man will exit. Both are blessings.
- When you meet real emotional safety, you’ll never settle for crumbs again

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

Season 4 - Episode #3: Why Women Accept The Bare Minimum For Too Long