Module 2: The secret!
Lesson 1: What’s the Secret?
If you’ve ever wondered the secret to have a man want you, to crave a connection with you, to have him think you’re irresistible? You’re about to find out!
There is a formula that have men coming back for more each time. Now, you may not like the formula, or you might even resist it, and it’s always easy to resist something you don’t agree with because it hasn’t been your experience or is something you don’t fully understand. However, I will say after a decade supporting men and women in relationships what I am about to share has been the one thing that stands out for me and the individuals I work with.
Yes, it’s true, functional men are simple creatures! They all have a commonality, one craving in a relationship. It might surprise you because of your past experiences, but the secret to keeping a man and what all men crave from a woman is (drum roll)…
He will be with the woman he can make happy.
Yes, it’s that simple! Didn’t I tell you men are simple creatures? In this new era of masculinity and femininity, men crave the opportunity to make a woman happy. It makes him feel needed, powerful, masculine, and superhero like. If we look at the evolution man and a man’s basic ‘animal’ need, evolution would suggest that he is primarily responsible to protect and provide. What gets some women unstuck is that they get caught up in the fact they don’t want a man to protect them, look after them, or provide for them. Some women go about their way, deliberately trying to prove they can do it on their own. When a man protects, provides and looks after a woman, they are not undermining a woman’s capability but rather cherishing her worth. Men want to feel strong and capable of pleasing you and the only way they can do that is if they know they make you happy. There is a part of them that wants to know they are needed… they want to be your hero.
So if the secret is he wants to make YOU happy. What does that mean for you?
Well just like women, men want to feel good. Just like women, they want to feel needed. Just like women, they want someone who is easy to be with and someone he can make happy. That’s the magnetic power for a man!
Men are drawn to a woman they can make happy; they are drawn so much that they will commit to that woman. I know you’re probably thinking “I’ve been struggling all this time in my relationships and this is the simple answer?” Yes, it is! Men are simple creatures. So, let’s not complicate it. If you reflect on past relationships, most the time he wasn’t making you happy – you deserve to be happy, and that’s why it didn’t work out.
While it’s simple, it’s true!
You’re probably wondering why so many men won’t commit, but men have fears too! Men who have experienced failed marriages or broken relationships can hold back from making a commitment, just like women who have low self-esteem will hold back from making a commitment. A man’s greatest fear is that they won’t be able to make a woman happy for the rest of her life and this is actually what holds many men back from making a commitment, especially those men who have come from failed relationships!
Failure doesn’t feel good to anyone, and a man will always commit to a relationship where he can make the woman happy. After talking with many men over the years, they always tell me that the number one reason they left the relationship is that nothing they did could make their partner happy. The inability to make his woman happy felt like failure!
If a man doesn’t feel like he can satisfy you, he might stick around for a little while and keep trying but at some point, he will want to walk – the same goes for women. How much can you try to make your man happy before you realise it’s not going to be enough?