Module 4
Lesson #1 – The 80/20 Rule
As a woman, you want the man to be invested in you and to build the connection with you. I’m sure you’ve spent plenty of years chasing the wrong type of guys but in the past you didn’t eliminate the flaky guys. This is where the 80/20 rule applies; it should be 20 percent where you initiate and the other 80 percent is the man taking action. This will eliminate the guys who don’t want anything more than one night.
You want the guy to be moving towards you, pursuing you, chasing you, contacting you, setting up dates and leading the experience that you have with him. Yet if you are doing all the contacting, setting up all the dates, you are not giving him the chance or the space he needs to do that. You then create the opposite of what you want, an absent guy or even someone that might ghost you. If he hasn’t given the opportunity to invest in you, he never gets the chance to feel invested in you!
The more investment you allow a man to make to the relationship, the more he will be committed to making it happen. When a man invests in a woman he likes, he won’t want to let that go. The trick is you need to allow the man to feel more invested in you, so he won’t want to let you go. They need to feel invested, doing all the work yourself does not create this experience.
The more he is pursuing you and the more he is into you, the more he will be around. The problem comes when you are doing all the initiating or, at least over 50 percent. Why is this a problem? Now you don’t know if he is invested in you or not! You haven’t given him a chance to work out and show you if he is into you. If he doesn’t invest, he doesn’t care or isn’t ready to be with you.